Do you ever feel like you are walking around with a mask on? What I mean is, sometimes do you feel like you have to be everything to everyone and you never have time to just be yourself? That is exactly how I feel at times. Life has this way of putting us into a daily mode of doing what we have to do and putting on a face that we might not truly feel. A mask is what I call it. There are times that we all feel vulnerable sad or weak; but we might not want to convey that emotion to our children. There are days that we feel frightened, nervous or confused; but we might now want our co-workers or bosses to notice it. So we put on a mask. A mask to hide all of those feelings from those who truly do not need to know. We mask ourselves with strength and courageousness to make it thought those times. » Read more..
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Many friends of mine who are married often talk about how they keep their marriages strong. Many of them have date night one a week or make sure they take time out for one another, away from children and other family. I can understand how many are trying to make sure their marriages stay strong. Some statistics say that up to 50% of marriages end in divorce. I found on interesting graphic however that debunks those statistics, showing there are multiple factors that come into play with those numbers.
You can navigate through this graphic using the navigation on the left.
Even with that being said, for a marriage to stay strong it takes work on both sides. This post on Yahoo from REDBOOK talks about 10 ways you can keep the relationship between you and your partner strong. I think this not only applies to marriages but serious relationships as well.
If you are over 40 and single like me, you might be wondering when it is going to happen for you. Personally I do not mind being single right now because I have so much going on but, I do not want to grow old by myself. Being alone and growing older is a huge fear of mine. Faith Murphy Knight from Discovery Health says the keys to getting the love you want over the age of 40 are knowing what you want, asking for what you want and what price are you willing to pay?
How do you feel about finding love over 40?
It is funny how you learn to appreciate things a little more when you get older. I grew up in a small town right off the coast of Maryland. When I was a child, I could not wait to get away from there. It did not help that both of my parents were school teachers and knew everyone in town! I think they still do. After I got out of college (the first time), I moved away from there so fast and never really looked back. For many years, I did not even go home to visit. My sister and I both live in the same city now so my parents used to always come and visit us. Now that my parents have gotten older, my family and I take more trips back home to the shore. The first time I went home after many years, I hardly recognized my little town. Empty fields were now shopping centers. There was actually traffic which I really do not remember! But as I continue to visit over the years, I have also learned to appreciate the little town that I could not wait to get away from as a child. » Read more..
When browsing the web, I run across articles that I think would interest my readers. This one is from AARP about how to make your marriage stronger. It includes a video from The Marriage Whisper, Harville Hendrix that tells about why you fall in love with the person you do and how to make a marriage that has turned negative stronger. Here is the article.
The Secrets To A Stronger Marriage
Relationships expert Harville Hendrix offers advice on how to make your marriage happier and more fulfilling
by: Margery D. Rosen | from: AARP | June 1, 2011
Falling in love seems effortless. Intoxicated with each other, you’re thoughtful, attentive, generous.
“When we fall in love, we see the world in Technicolor,” says psychologist Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., who Oprah Winfrey has dubbed the marriage whisperer. “We’re filled with delicious expectations of wish fulfillment.”
But staying in love, maintaining that close connection through the years? That’s tricky. “Inevitably, things start to go wrong,” explains Hendrix, who created Imago Relationship Therapy three decades ago after listening to thousands of couples talk about their once-happy marriages. “Traits and qualities you used to admire begin to grate. Old hurts resurface; new ones are forged. The relationship that started with such promise leaves you feeling lonely, disconnected and unsure how to get back on track.”
Why do some marriages burn out while others burn bright? Hendrix believes the key lies in what he calls the “hidden agenda” of romantic love. “We like to think that we have free choice when it comes to picking a partner,” he explains. “In fact, subconsciously we choose someone — I call this your Imago partner — who resembles one of our parents in positive as well as negative ways.” No matter how wonderful those caretakers were, he explains, they weren’t perfect. As a result, we all have old emotional wounds and unmet needs that stay with us for years. We assume that the person we love will help us rewrite the script, soothe those hurt feelings and satisfy all those missing needs — and in the beginning, they often do. But as time goes by, couples become gridlocked in power struggles large and small that can simmer for decades.
“To break the cycle, couples need to learn how to love in the other what they dislike in themselves,” says Hendrix. “Once you’ve developed this self-awareness, you take the first step toward a conscious marriage and a real and lasting love.” Here, Hendrix offers seven rules for making the second half of your marriage even better than the first.