Do you ever feel like you are walking around with a mask on? What I mean is, sometimes do you feel like you have to be everything to everyone and you never have time to just be yourself? That is exactly how I feel at times. Life has this way of putting us into a daily mode of doing what we have to do and putting on a face that we might not truly feel. A mask is what I call it. There are times that we all feel vulnerable sad or weak; but we might not want to convey that emotion to our children. There are days that we feel frightened, nervous or confused; but we might now want our co-workers or bosses to notice it. So we put on a mask. A mask to hide all of those feelings from those who truly do not need to know. We mask ourselves with strength and courageousness to make it thought those times. » Read more..
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Apparently more and more women over the age of 40 are having babies. I do not think at my age, I really could have another baby. I always tell my friends that when Prince Charming comes, he will have to already have children because I am in no way interested. I have one son who I love more than anything in this world. The thought of being pregnant, the sleepless night, the formula and diapers are all things that I do no think I could experience again at my age.
A government report released in June of this year however, shows that many women over the age of 40 do not feel the same way I do.
The study shows from the years of 1990 to 2008 pregnancies among older women rose far more dramatically: rates for women ages 40 to 44 went up nearly 65 percent. There were just 11.4 pregnancies per 1,000 women in that age group in 1990, compared with 18.8 in 2008.
I had my son almost 2 months to the day of my 30th birthday and I shared with you in my very first post on this blog how that made me feel. I was going through some type of identity crisis. Not only was I a little depressed but I really did not know who I was anymore. I had this new identity of “mother” and now that was what I was supposed to be right? I did not take much time thinking about what I was going to wear and often wore my hair up. I stopped most of my hobbies and never spent any time with friends. I jumped right into the mother role but I forgot about another important person…ME! I find that many parents, especially mothers, spend so much time taking care of their children that they forget to also focus on themselves. Being a parent does require a lot of sacrifice. This is something that all good parents know but we are no good to our children if we are not at our best. As parents, we have to take time out for ourselves. Fortunately for me, I learned this fairly quickly. » Read more..