Do you ever feel like you are walking around with a mask on? What I mean is, sometimes do you feel like you have to be everything to everyone and you never have time to just be yourself? That is exactly how I feel at times. Life has this way of putting us into a daily mode of doing what we have to do and putting on a face that we might not truly feel. A mask is what I call it. There are times that we all feel vulnerable sad or weak; but we might not want to convey that emotion to our children. There are days that we feel frightened, nervous or confused; but we might now want our co-workers or bosses to notice it. So we put on a mask. A mask to hide all of those feelings from those who truly do not need to know. We mask ourselves with strength and courageousness to make it thought those times. » Read more..
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As I got older, I started to realize some new passions of mine. Trying to ensure I excel in the field I have chosen, I made the decision to go back to school. I was hesitant at first, knowing that in a few years I will have to figure out how to pay for my son’s college education. Although I have been saving for a while, I know that I do not have anywhere near to amount of money I will need to make sure he can go to college without being in a ton of debt. After weighing the pros and the cons however, I decided that if I make this investment in myself now, I will be able to better provide for my son in the future. » Read more..
Apparently more and more women over the age of 40 are having babies. I do not think at my age, I really could have another baby. I always tell my friends that when Prince Charming comes, he will have to already have children because I am in no way interested. I have one son who I love more than anything in this world. The thought of being pregnant, the sleepless night, the formula and diapers are all things that I do no think I could experience again at my age.
A government report released in June of this year however, shows that many women over the age of 40 do not feel the same way I do.
The study shows from the years of 1990 to 2008 pregnancies among older women rose far more dramatically: rates for women ages 40 to 44 went up nearly 65 percent. There were just 11.4 pregnancies per 1,000 women in that age group in 1990, compared with 18.8 in 2008.
If you are over 40 and single like me, you might be wondering when it is going to happen for you. Personally I do not mind being single right now because I have so much going on but, I do not want to grow old by myself. Being alone and growing older is a huge fear of mine. Faith Murphy Knight from Discovery Health says the keys to getting the love you want over the age of 40 are knowing what you want, asking for what you want and what price are you willing to pay?
How do you feel about finding love over 40?
The first of my “Real Life Spotlight” series involves an interview with a man that has not quite entered into the 40 and over club yet. 39 year old Kevin Bennett is the owner of KBenn Merchandises. My first interaction with Kevin happened when he thanked me for liking his Facebook page. As many pages that I have liked on Facebook, (well beyond the so called “500 limit”) I can not remember anyone ever thanking me for a like. From that point on, I knew that Kevin was a person that I wanted to know.
When I asked Kevin to be a part of this new blog series that I am writing, there was no hesitation. Having never meeting him in person and living in different areas, I did not know exactly how to get this done. I was so excited to move forward with the process however, I came up with a questionnaire for him to respond to. To my surprise, he completed it very quickly and with much enthusiasm. This told me a great deal about my new found Facebook friend. That along with the answers to the questions I had for Kevin should tell you a lot about him and the type of person he is too.
I started by asking Kevin to tell me a little bit about himself.
“My name is Kevin Bennett, and I’m 39 years old. I was born and raised in Bonneau Beach, SC, and I lived in Bonneau Beach, SC until I was 18 years old. At age 18, I went to college to play basketball at The University of South Carolina at Spartanburg (Now USC-Upstate). I studied business management and completed college at The University of South Carolina in Columbia. I’m single. I have one brother that’s one year younger than me, and I have four sisters (two older and two younger). I love traveling, playing sports, watching and attending sporting events, concerts, comedy shows, entertaining family and friends, going on cruises, meeting new people, trying and learning new things, reading, educating myself on a wide variety of topics, listening to music, watching movies (theater and home), watching a wide variety of TV programming, networking, motivating and inspiring others, running my business, helping others in anyway I can and living life. ”
How do you feel about turning 40 soon?
“I feel great about turning 40 on August 12, 2012. I look forward to it. If I live to see it, I’ll feel blessed to have lived 40 years on earth. A lot of people have said they were getting depressed when they were reaching 40. I thank GOD for life and every second that I breathe. More importantly, I thank GOD for all that I’ve learned throughout my years of living. I thank GOD for the wisdom I’ve gained in my 39 years of living. Turning 40 would be a blessing. I’ve had many family, friends and associates who didn’t live to see 20, 25, 30 or 35. I’m looking forward to 40.”
What is KBenn Merchandises?
“KBenn Merchandises is a retailer of fragrance lamps / electric oil burners, tealight oil warmers, fragrance oils, scented crystal rocks, lanterns, incense, candleholders & home decor. With so many colorful ways to bring an added glow and delightful aroma to your room, it’s no wonder that fragrance lamps / electric oil burners are our best sellers here at KBenn Merchandises. From simple designs to elegant artistry, we have a wide selection to fit every home. We also have figurine fragrance lamps / electric oil burners that are hand-painted from a poly-resin cast. Beautifully crafted, these eye-catching creations compliment moments from nature that bring so much pleasure from land, sea or air. Our scented crystal rocks are pure ionic crystals from the Caribbean Sea; colored in rich hues and infused with pure oils to provide a lasting fragrance. The fragrance from the crystals are strong as candles, yet safe to your health and environment. Scented crystal rocks are also called crystal potpourri. Our long lasting fragrance oils are great for aroma burners, lamp rings, potpourri, etc.” » Read more..
On my quest to find great articles and website for our men readers, I stumbled upon a site called AskMen.com. I love this article by Brandon Dyce on fashion tips for men over 40. Check it out.
Over-40 Fashion Tips
With age comes wisdom. The lessons learned over the course of a lifetime make us smarter and stronger. And by the time most of us hit our 40s, we feel like we’ve seen and done it all; we feel secure in ourselves, our careers and our style. Unfortunately, though, that last one sometimes stems from a false sense of security. Unlike other aspects of life, the style strategies we acquire over time end up working against us, especially after watching a few decades of ever-changing fashions fly by. At some point we must reevaluate, and the fifth decade of living is the perfect time to do just that. So, to impart some style wisdom for guys in their 40s, here is a list of fashion tips to consider.
Avoid Fashion Fads
Don’t fall for today’s fashion-marketing ploys. By now you should maintain a style that’s timeless, not timely; you should avoid the latest trends at all costs. And the key here is not only avoiding fads, but also recognizing them. Since fashion fads generally target a certain age demographic, you can easily identify them according to who’s wearing what. For instance, the boutique sneakers and ironic T-shirts worn mainly by guys in their late teens and twenties are suited perfectly for that age group. But a 40-year-old sporting a shirt that says, “I wish your girlfriend would stop staring at me” will only seem creepy, not cool. Simply put, fashion fads exist for guys still experimenting with their style. You’re past this stage of the game and are ready for a well-defined, classic wardrobe that mirrors the man you are inside.
I think I was going through a state of depression when I turned thirty. At 29 I broke off my engagement of one year of a boyfriend I had been dating for four and found myself a single mother of a newborn baby. All I kept thinking was, “I am not 20 anything anymore and on top of it all, I am someone’s mother!” This was never the life I had dreamed of myself on my 30th birthday, which occurred 2 months after my son was born. After many nights of crying and consistently having wine on hand for emergencies, I decided to get up and get on with my life. By all means, this little life now depends on me and to quote Whitney Houston from Waiting to Exhale, “I still look good!”