More and more attention is being brought to the fact that there are so many single black women in this country.  Nightline tackled the issue in 2011 during a special titled  “Nightline Face-Off”: Why Can’t a Successful Black Woman Find a Man?“ that consisted of a debate between successful black women and men about the issue.  Current statistics show that about 70% of African American women are unmarried.  I am not sure how accurate that number is but I do know that many more of my white friends are married than my black ones and often I wonder why.  I myself am unmarried at the wonderful age of 41 and really have come to the conclusion that I might not ever get married.  Some of my reasoning for this has to to with the fact that I am okay with being single.  I have experienced and seen so many bad break ups and divorces to the point where I do not know if it is even worth it to me.  I also know that letting someone As I continue to get older however, I also think about not wanting to grow old alone and how I would like the support from time to time, personally and financially.

One of the factors that I feel like contribute to the large number of unmarried African American women is the number of black men that date outside of their race.  The majority of black women still prefer to be with a black man over any other race thus creating an imbalance. Recently Anderson Cooper talked about this very topic on his new talk show.  Even though it is becoming more and more common, there is still a lot of debate over what is acceptable and to whom when it comes to interracial dating.  There are many that still feel that this is not acceptable. As a black woman, I can understand this feeling.  I am in no way a doubter of true love and I do not think there should be any color lines when it comes to it.  Often times however, I do wonder what has turned the black man off from the black woman as it seems as though we are no longer their first choice in a mate. » Read more..